Who this is for
Who male.guide is for.
A network of guides for men who would rather notice what is happening to them than find out later. Here is who it suits, who it does not, and who you will be talking to.
It is for you if
- You are a man, often in your forties, fifties or sixties, anywhere in the world
- Something has shifted: your work, your body, your drinking, your people, or simply your days
- You would rather notice what is happening to you than find out later
- You want to think it through privately, in plain language, before you speak to anyone
- Or you are beside somebody else's drinking, and you need somewhere to start
It is probably not for you if
- You want a guru, a diagnosis, a therapist or a ten-step plan
- You need a doctor, a lawyer or a financial adviser. Each guide will tell you plainly when it is time
- You are under eighteen. The network is written for adults
- You are in danger now. Go to the help page
Who you will be talking to
On paper, I will not suit everyone. In person, I seem to do well. I am a former headhunter, not a doctor, a therapist or a guru. I spent nearly twenty years sitting across a table from men at the moment their lives were changing, and the job was to listen properly and tell them the honest thing, even when it was not what they came in for.
Each guide in this network is the nearest I can get to that table, for any man anywhere in the world. The replies come from an SI (super intelligence) guide that works from my notes and my voice. It is not me typing, and it will never pretend to be.
If you want a polished brochure, a ten-step plan, or somebody to tell you that you are right, I am probably not your man. If you want somebody straight with you, who will not flatter you and will not panic on your behalf, pull up a chair.
Still here?
Then this is probably your place. Pick the guide closest to where you are, and take it one question at a time.
Written by James Roberts, with help from AI.