Every man is interesting with the right question, especially with a bit of hospitality. Most people have little to say, and less to ask. It takes confidence to ask. Do it anyway.
Listening, interest, absorbing and enjoying are different things. You know it is all four when they ask a row of logical questions back.
How I ask
Learning to ask in a fun way creates the best conversations. Men do things together but do not talk about it, so I ask while doing something: serving, relaxed, in the sun, and always relevant. Small talk is a connection. Embrace it, trivial as it is. My lack of Spanish is my comedy, and the laughing helps.
Do not expect anyone to be funny. Humour is dynamic. And silence at a table is normal and fine.
What comes back
Most men will be surprised by what other men remember. There is reluctance to share it, and sharing takes a brave man, but it forms stronger bonds. Bonds cannot be built fast. Life is long.